Three Tips About Second Dates
March 5th, 2007 by Charla
Let’s face it. Sometimes you don’t know whether there’s chemistry on the first date, or maybe little red flags went up when he referred to a certain demographic as “those people”, or when he called his mother a narcissist. So you’re not sure about whether to book a second date. Three tips about second dates:
1. Use flirtysomething’s Apres Date system. Write an Apres Date Review about the first date. It’s a nuanced way to communicate with someone you’re not sure about. The system is easy to use and walks you through the process step by step. Once your review is completed, the system will guide you in sending an invitation to your date to read what you’ve written about him or her. Your review will summarize what you did on your date, how you think the date went, whether or not you’d like to book a second date and why (or you can select not to answer that question). And if you met your date on flirtysomething, the system will ask you to rate the accuracy of his or her flirtysomething profile. In order to read your review, your date will first have to post one too. The pair of date reviews are confidential between you and your date unless you both choose to publish them in your flirtysomething profiles.
2. Let’s say you both post Apres Date Reviews. One of you has indicated a strong interest in booking a second date. This makes the situation somewhat promising. At the very worst, the second date will clarify whether to go forward most likely right from the git-go, I’ve found. If it’s no, you can make it a quickie. If it isn’t beyond the pale of good manners, if you haven’t booked a concert or play with the guy or gal, arrange for a friend to call you a half hour or so into the date to provide the easy out. “My roommate’s locked out. Must run…” Either way, go forward or jump ship, the second date will make it very clear.
3. If you’re lonely and bored, book a second date. What have you got to lose? In fact, if it’s really really bad, it may restore your appreciation for your own company. Thereby, curing you of your loneliness and boredom.
How many dates does it typically take for you to know whether you have found a keeper?
